My hope is that this page will help you decide if I'll be a good fit for you in your counseling journey. The most important thing to me is that you feel you're working with someone who understands you and the context of the world you're living and loving in.
I am sure you want to know if I can help you and if I know what I'm doing.
I take immense pride in upholding my credentials by pursuing trainings, continuing education, and remaining a consumer of the research on couples, marriage, dating, and millennials. I'm passionate about knowing what it takes for couples to find and sustain a relationship or marriage that lasts, especially because they are up against so much. In a world that is constantly changing its rules of relationships, I intend to never stop learning.
But beyond all that, I'm a person just like you who has lived through the heartache of loss and disappointment and the JOYS of cultivating a fulfilling life with a partner who doesn't complete me...contrary to what I thought I needed.
Even after years with the same person, I had cold feet. Now, I can't stop dancing. I experienced a fear of commitment related to love, marriage, money, parenting, and my career, like so many others in the millennial generation. Through my own growth, graduate school, and education on millennials, I found the tools to help me break free from the anxiety and constant questioning in myself.
Don't be fooled, though. Life is still hard. Love is still work. But there are attainable tools and knowledge that can help along the way. That's what I hope to provide to those who work with me.
While my personal experiences have informed the way I work with clients, you should know that our work together will be focused on you, your relationship(s), and the outcome you are trying to reach.
If you're diving into the dating realm but would like more confidence in yourself or a greater awareness of the kind of partner you are trying to attract, this is right up my alley. I'll work hard with you to make the small yet significant shifts in your mindset and actions that will get you to the kind of relationship you thought was only a dream.
If you are in a relationship where your partner wants out but you don't, counseling can help you figure out exactly what you need to do before resigning yourself to the worst outcome. It only takes one person to instigate healthy change in a relationship.
If you're finding yourself just a few months, weeks, or even days away from your wedding day but have cold feet, doubts, or flat out fear about the decision in front of you, know that you're not alone.
So many people experience this...yet no one dares talk about it. I mean, what sort of doubt might that instill in your partner or families to hear that sort of talk after all these months of preparation and money that's been invested? Right? Wrong.
It's never too late to explore what you're feeling. Fear and anxiety may not mean you're with the wrong partner. But it may be something worth leaning into...and that is the type of work I love doing with my clients.
I find that I work best with couples who are motivated and ready to put effort and intention into the steps they take between our sessions. I work best with individuals who want to experience change and are willing to go inward and explore their motives, desires, and emotional experiences.
I would describe my approach as compassionate, caring, but assertive. I'm not afraid to call out the unhealthy stuff I see. I'll always have you and your relationship's best interest in mind.
If you connect with what you've read, contact me today and lets get started! I look forward to an opportunity to work with you soon.